I am a 25 year old single female.
I could even put “single by choice” female here. I’m sure I could get a date. If I you know…tried to.
But to be honest, I don’t want to date. I don’t want to deal with the “is he into me or isn’t he into me?” The stupid games. The faking. The “sex issue.”
When I say “sex issue” I mean that every guy I have gone on a date with seems to assume that because we went to a movie I’m going to sleep with him. One date does not equal sex. Sorry.
As a 25 year old female I tend to get the “Oh, are you seeing someone? You’re not? Well I know this guy…”
“You’re not seeing someone? Why not?”
Which is always a long explanation. A lot of the questions go to my ex, which its not his fault either.
Also, everyone seems to think that because I’m single, I’m just out having a lot of single girl sex. No, thats not the case either. And by single girl sex I mean going out to bars and picking up guys and having one night stands all over the place. Why is it if I’m single I’m a ho and if I’m taken I’m normal?
The truth is, why kid yourself? I don’t meet people outside of work or my current friends. Which leaves me to the world of internet dating.
Do you know what internet dating has brought me?
A one legged racist man.
A woman who said she was a man but thought I was a lesbian but I just didn’t know it yet. (I don’t care what your sexual preference is, but respect mine. I’m straight. No questions asked.)
Lots and lots of different ways of being propositioned for sex. The last one that made me throw up in my mouth a little was “I juz got outa jail nd i need sumthin pink to cuddle wif” (exactly with that spelling)
Lots and lots of old..old..old..men asking me to do things that no old man should ever proposition to a young woman…especially when they want sex afterwords. (Such as, spongebaths, foot massages, ect ect)
NOTHING GOOD HAS COME FROM INTERNET DATING.
I also refuse to put my Facebook status as “Single”. Everyone seems to think its because I’m hung up on my ex. Guess again! I hate the fact that if I’m single on Facebook, I’m trolled for sex, there is offensive singles ads on my sidebar, and everyone and their uncle knows it. If you’re really that curious, you can ask me.
90 percent of my friends are married, or getting married, or in a serious relationship where the question can be popped at any time and it’ll be an “OH MY GOD YES” and tears and we all clap for joy because YAY you’re getting married and lets remind everyone of the last single girl standing.
Why is it that marriage is such an important part of todays society? Why is it that if you are not married by 30 you’re a social outcast to the rest of your friends, who are most likely all married (or in some form of marriage?) Its pretty much a fifty fifty chance that its going to last, and who cares anymore because there is always divorce right?
I am fairly traditional. I don’t believe in divorce unless its an abusive relationship. I don’t believe in cheating, I’ve never cheated (I’ve been cheated on in every relationship but my last, but I won’t ever do it.) I believe marriage is a sacred vow that is to be taken once and once only. I also believe sex should wait until you fully trust and know the person. But, how many people believe in that these days?
These are reasons I gave up on dating. I’m sure there are guys out there that fit the bill, but I’m not looking for them. If I wind up not finding him and being alone, I’m not going to be the sad alone woman that everyone stereotypes us out to be. If I’m 35 and not married…why should anyone care but me? I can pretty much bet you I won’t.
I want women who are single and over the age of 25…be proud of it. Don’t let society take you down because you don’t bend to their rules. Screw them! Single life is a fun time, and I think we should embrace it rather than shun it! Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re a ho, or lonely, or pathetic. It means you’re independent and you know who you are and THAT is what matters. No one else defines you but you.
That, ladies and gentleman, is how it should be.